My Mother (left) and Grandmother (right) in 70’s era Waukegan, Illinois

“As women, we are able to call forth life from the other side and cultivate that life in the quiet space below our hearts. Within our bodies, we hold an opening to the divine, a portal that allows souls to enter into this world. Because we are connected to the divine through the space covered by our hearts, we are also the keepers of divine intuition and heart-based wisdom. Thus, the teachings that we carry are essential for keeping our societies spiritually healthy and emotionally balanced.” — Weh’na Ha’mu Kwasset, Sacred Instructions

My mother and I were carried in the…

Amina and Tiara laughing outloud, standing in water at nude beach. The words “Live Authentically’ covers their nudity.
Amina and Tiara laughing outloud, standing in water at nude beach. The words “Live Authentically’ covers their nudity.
How do you live in a way that allows you to BE you?


In a recent discussion, I was reminded that while many of us survived 2020, thriving in it required a specific superpower: authenticity. We are being sold pleasure as a concept and novelty, being told what we should desire. The programming moved us out of our bodies, and as we started listening to how things should be, we stopped listening to ourselves.

We have become disconnected and lost touch. Where erotic Embodiment helps us reconnect with our true, authentic selves so that we can live a life of love, full expression, and authenticity —…

FOR REFERENCE: this is a blog post I wrote at the start of the pandemic, when the nation was being locked down and lied to for the first time (the don’t wear masks era). I read it yesterday and thought as we are moving back in to lockdowns, now is as good as any of a time to share it again. May your hands be strong and your lube slippery…

This Monday started off a bit different for many. My usual coffee and breathwork was followed by a quick browse of social media that reminded me, we are in a…

As I wrap up my 2020, preparing my practice for the new year, I am reminded about sex (surprise) and how we approach it. There is so much self misrepresentation in the pursuit and practice of sex, that we can’t fully enjoy it. In the book “The Four Agreements,” author Don Miguel Ruiz lays out four paths to personal freedom. If you haven’t read it yet, please do. Ruiz offers four great “laws” for living, but what if we transported those same practices into our loving spaces to experience more AMAZING sex?

The first agreement and arguably the most difficult…

I was 12 years old when I started exploring sex. My mother had spent much of my childhood making us write reference book reports as a punishment, creating a pre-pubescent book nerd excited to discover the Encyclopedia of Sex. Up until that moment, very little had been spoken directly to us of sex, but I had gotten in enough trouble for “sitting up underneath grown folx conversations” to know that sex was something I was going to do one day. This “encyclopedia” was both frightening and enlightening, arming me with enough information to become a sexual know-it-all by 8th grade.

I have a confession to make. I have peed during sex.

I know for a fact it was urine. It was a fun night of intense vibrations from a sex toy, lots of oral and deep penetration. I was so excited, like a puppy is when its owner returns home, and at the peak of my orgasmic bliss, I gushed a bit of urine. Both my lover and I were surprised by this fluid and thought I had learned to squirt.

Here is the thing, piss smells like piss. I don’t care how much water you drink, it will smell…

This is the most common question I get. A completely understandable question, too. I began my journey into sex work as a sex surrogate in 1997, offering myself as an essential component to male clients of a Chicago-area therapist on a path to healing sexual dysfunctions. I was young and curious about all things sex and this opened up my mind to the real POWER of sex.

I had no way of knowing that 10 years later, I would find myself on the other side of the planet, offering a therapy all my own to clients who existed in varying…

Black androgynous person holding face in hands.
Black androgynous person holding face in hands.
On grief, fear and acceptance.

How Fear Stops Us from Making Peace with Reality.

Can we talk about grief for a moment? When COVID 19 moved into our lives, there were so many opinions. I remember tearing up my NCAA brackets, which I had carefully and strategically selected, thinking “this shit is about to be really bad if they are cancelling the sports.” Even still, I got on a plane and headed to Hawaii for my annual trip, where I have been “stuck” ever since.

I kept telling my friends and family that I will be home in a minute, to resume the life I…

“The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You trade in your sense for an act. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask. There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first.”
― Jim Morrison

We woke up on January 1st of this year in a group embrace. Wiping the crusties from our eyes, trying to figure out if we were still high from the night before’s cannasexual…

Amina Peterson

Amina is the founder of the Atlanta Institute of Tantra & Divine Sexuality. She is a healer, sex doula, intimacy coach, tantric sex educator, and activist.

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