Amina and Tiara laughing outloud, standing in water at nude beach. The words “Live Authentically’ covers their nudity.
Amina and Tiara laughing outloud, standing in water at nude beach. The words “Live Authentically’ covers their nudity.
How do you live in a way that allows you to BE you?

7 WAYS TO UNLEASH THE AUTHENTIC YOU

In a recent discussion, I was reminded that while many of us survived 2020, thriving in it required a specific superpower: authenticity. We are being sold pleasure as a concept and novelty, being told what we should desire. The programming moved us out of our bodies, and as we started listening to how things should be, we stopped listening to ourselves.

We have become disconnected and lost touch. Where erotic Embodiment helps us reconnect with our true, authentic selves so that we can live a life of love, full expression, and authenticity — disembodiment is, essentially, losing touch with our own selves.. …


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FOR REFERENCE: this is a blog post I wrote at the start of the pandemic, when the nation was being locked down and lied to for the first time (the don’t wear masks era). I read it yesterday and thought as we are moving back in to lockdowns, now is as good as any of a time to share it again. May your hands be strong and your lube slippery…

This Monday started off a bit different for many. My usual coffee and breathwork was followed by a quick browse of social media that reminded me, we are in a pandemic. I climbed back in bed, slung my leg over my partner and continued to scroll through social media, while he gently massaged my yoni, playing with my growing bush. …


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As I wrap up my 2020, preparing my practice for the new year, I am reminded about sex (surprise) and how we approach it. There is so much self misrepresentation in the pursuit and practice of sex, that we can’t fully enjoy it. In the book “The Four Agreements,” author Don Miguel Ruiz lays out four paths to personal freedom. If you haven’t read it yet, please do. Ruiz offers four great “laws” for living, but what if we transported those same practices into our loving spaces to experience more AMAZING sex?

The first agreement and arguably the most difficult, both in life and in love, is to “be impeccable with your word.” As a whole, people aren’t often communicative enough in sex, so practicing this first one will not come easily. Clients often come to me with a negative word about their own sexual selves and sometimes about their partners sex. If I could challenge you to move into the first agreement to stop speaking AGAINST your sex. Say what you want, what you like and what you need in and from sex. The words we speak set our intention, and in sex magic we move our intention into our sexual energy and orgasm so that we can manifest what we want in life. …


I was 12 years old when I started exploring sex. My mother had spent much of my childhood making us write reference book reports as a punishment, creating a pre-pubescent book nerd excited to discover the Encyclopedia of Sex. Up until that moment, very little had been spoken directly to us of sex, but I had gotten in enough trouble for “sitting up underneath grown folx conversations” to know that sex was something I was going to do one day. This “encyclopedia” was both frightening and enlightening, arming me with enough information to become a sexual know-it-all by 8th grade.

I didn’t know a thing about orgasms though until I was in college, learning how to breathe. Before that, I was having fun with sex. I was even being brought to climax with several of my lovers, but I had way too much tension in my body to ever truly move into an orgasmic state. …


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I have a confession to make. I have peed during sex.

I know for a fact it was urine. It was a fun night of intense vibrations from a sex toy, lots of oral and deep penetration. I was so excited, like a puppy is when its owner returns home, and at the peak of my orgasmic bliss, I gushed a bit of urine. Both my lover and I were surprised by this fluid and thought I had learned to squirt.

Here is the thing, piss smells like piss. I don’t care how much water you drink, it will smell of urine (or in my case that day, coffee and urine) and the pigment urochromen will provide it with somewhat of a yellow tinge. To be honest, in my heart of hearts, I knew it was pee. This is important to note, because the first time I actually squirted, I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that it wasn’t pee. …


This is the most common question I get. A completely understandable question, too. I began my journey into sex work as a sex surrogate in 1997, offering myself as an essential component to male clients of a Chicago-area therapist on a path to healing sexual dysfunctions. I was young and curious about all things sex and this opened up my mind to the real POWER of sex.

I had no way of knowing that 10 years later, I would find myself on the other side of the planet, offering a therapy all my own to clients who existed in varying states of erotic dysfunction. For the past 20+ years I have been studying sex with both the curiosity of a child and the voracity of a fat king, absorbing as much as I could from tantra to somatica. Throughout this period my life has taken it’s share of professional twists and turns, spending a big chunk of it working hard to maintain a “real job” both as an entrepreneur and in corporate, while working as a sex worker in the off hours. …


Black androgynous person holding face in hands.
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On grief, fear and acceptance.

How Fear Stops Us from Making Peace with Reality.

Can we talk about grief for a moment? When COVID 19 moved into our lives, there were so many opinions. I remember tearing up my NCAA brackets, which I had carefully and strategically selected, thinking “this shit is about to be really bad if they are cancelling the sports.” Even still, I got on a plane and headed to Hawaii for my annual trip, where I have been “stuck” ever since.

I kept telling my friends and family that I will be home in a minute, to resume the life I built. The Institute would be reopening the doors and classes would resume, in just a few… this will all die down soon. Unable to recognize the anxiety that planning into the unknown was embedding into my spirit, I just kept pushing dates back. A few days became 2 more weeks, which became 2 more months. Time has no real relevance here. It measures periods of time that don’t mean anything, because time always concluded in certainty and we lack that here. …


“The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You trade in your sense for an act. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask. There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first.”
― Jim Morrison

We woke up on January 1st of this year in a group embrace. Wiping the crusties from our eyes, trying to figure out if we were still high from the night before’s cannasexual cuddle puddle, we began to prepare brunch for the guests that stayed the night. I had poster boards, boxes of magazines, paint and other art mediums for us to get into our vision boards, while we waited for the weed to fizzle out of our systems and start 2020. …

About

Amina Peterson

Amina is the founder of the Atlanta Institute of Tantra & Divine Sexuality. She is a healer, sex doula, intimacy coach, tantric sex educator, and activist.

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