7 WAYS TO UNLEASH THE AUTHENTIC YOU In a recent discussion, I was reminded that while many of us survived 2020, thriving in it required a specific superpower: authenticity. We are being sold pleasure as a concept and novelty, being told what we should desire. …

FOR REFERENCE: this is a blog post I wrote at the start of the pandemic, when the nation was being locked down and lied to for the first time (the don’t wear masks era). I read it yesterday and thought as we are moving back in to lockdowns, now is…

As I wrap up my 2020, preparing my practice for the new year, I am reminded about sex (surprise) and how we approach it. There is so much self misrepresentation in the pursuit and practice of sex, that we can’t fully enjoy it. In the book “The Four Agreements,” author…

I was 12 years old when I started exploring sex. My mother had spent much of my childhood making us write reference book reports as a punishment, creating a pre-pubescent book nerd excited to discover the Encyclopedia of Sex. Up until that moment, very little had been spoken directly to…

I have a confession to make. I have peed during sex. I know for a fact it was urine. It was a fun night of intense vibrations from a sex toy, lots of oral and deep penetration. I was so excited, like a puppy is when its owner returns home…

This is the most common question I get. A completely understandable question, too. I began my journey into sex work as a sex surrogate in 1997, offering myself as an essential component to male clients of a Chicago-area therapist on a path to healing sexual dysfunctions. …

How Fear Stops Us from Making Peace with Reality. Can we talk about grief for a moment? When COVID 19 moved into our lives, there were so many opinions. I remember tearing up my NCAA brackets, which I had carefully and strategically selected, thinking “this shit is about to be…

“The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You trade in your sense for an act. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask. There can’t be any large-scale revolution until…